My hubby’s starving me, complains wife

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A HOUSEWIFE of Lusaka has told the Matero Local Court that her husband has been denying her conjugal rights, saying he is no longer finds her attractive.
Isabel Kumwenda, 23, of Matero Township complained before senior court magistrates Pauline Newa and Lewis Mumba that her husband Wilson Kumwenda has not been intimate with her for the past 11 months because she is no longer sexually attractive.
Isabel was narrating in a case in which she sued Kumwenda, 35, for marriage reconciliation.
She got married to Kumwenda in 2012 and the two have one child. Bride price was not paid.
“Problems started when I fell pregnant. He started abusing me. He sometimes called me a prostitute in the presence of her sisters.
“There are times I tried to seduce him when we are together in the bedroom by applying lotion in his presence but he simply tells me that I stink. He says he can only consider having sexual relations with me after I stop breast feeding our baby,” she said.
Isabel told the court that Kumwenda once went home with lipstick marks on his white shirt.
“He got angry when I asked him and told me that he no longer has appetite for me. He even bragged that he usually goes to see other women before coming home who know how to sexually satisfy men without limitations,” she said.
She said Kumwenda currently sleeps in his car to avoid sharing a room with her. Isabel said when she complains about being sexually starved, Kumwenda gives her examples of catholic priest who manage to stay celibate for the rest of their lives.
But in his submission, Kumwenda told the court that he cannot manage to meet his wife’s excessive sexual appetite. He said he will only move back into their matrimonial bedroom when his wife stops demanding for sex and begins to understand his challenges as a man.
“Yes, I decided to deny her conjugal rights sexually for 11 month because I don’t find breast feeding women sexually appetising. I have even told her that we will start having sex when she stops breastfeeding,” Kumwenda said.
The court reconciled the couple and ordered Kumwenda to stop denying his wife her conjugal rights.